This week in review

This is kiddo's first full week of school. He also had his 1st "tantrum" / "mini meltdown". We were waiting for them- on pins and needles really. We knew they would happen. And that's the tough part of inclusion. Because you know they're going to have a mini meltdown or tantrum and you know there will be kicking/screaming/crying what have you's and you know the typical peers will observe. And maybe they'll go home and tell their parents and well then you want to protect him from the gossipy judgy parents.

Personally I could give a sh*t, I'm not one to give a crap what people think and I have no time for BS. Judgy gossipy people suck especially when you've got a kiddo who can feel their criticism and who just wants to be liked. When kids call him a "weirdo" in the playground or wherever we're at, my medusa snake hair gets unsettled and only the thought that they're kids keeps them safe from my wrath but they definitely get the "you are not a kind person" look and their parents get the "WTF kind of parent are you that you don't correct it? How can you be teaching or allowing intolerance? Get off your butts, put the damn cell phones down and be  f*king parent!" look. I can't stand lazy parenting.

F*ck it, he's going to have a meltdown, yes he has autism, get over it. Your kid isn't perfect either Ms. I have a texting addiction on my new 1 inch bigger phone. Don't you know size doesn't matter?  It's how you use it sister? But he's got killer social skills, he knows the proper back and forth of a conversation, he knows good social behaviors vs bad. And he will one day understand that not everyone is nice and that hopefully won't change who he is or make him as sarcastic and porcupiney as his mommy. My job is to teach him how to be a good person and to teach him coping skills with this crazya$$ world that thinks common core math makes any damn sense and in this world where building a damn fenced wall around borders is helping in anyway.

His teachers provided feedback on how he's doing, while nice to hear, it didn't surprise me. That's just who he is:
A child from the autistic support classroom was pulled in for the learning activities and was having a difficult time transitioning. Anxiety. My kiddo stepped up, said: "it's okay to be upset." and he then modeled the correct behavior and proceeded to show his classmate how to do the activity. See that didn't surprise me. That's my kiddo, that's who he is. Underneath the hyper impulsive child, is a kid who loves to help and laugh. But it surprised his special ed teacher and his 1-1 aide. I wish other parents would take time to see him for who he is. I wish they would see beyond his disability. And my life long challenge and commitment-- is to scream inclusion until they get it, until inclusion is the "norm". Until my kid is the "norm" and the judgy biotches shut their damn mouths.

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